It’s official, ‘I don’t know how she does it’. Mum, wife, cook, cleaner, chauffeur, nurse, entertainer…I could go on. I’m genuinely in awe of mothers (and fathers) who seem to have it all so together. They have gorgeous children, go out on little adventures and play dates when the mood takes them and don’t get me started on the home cooked meals in perfectly tidy and organised kitchens. And no I’m not jealous, in case you can sense a slight hint of sarcasm. I’m not jealous; more than anything I’m confused about how they manage to do it all and not lose their heads. I barely wake up on time in the mornings for work. Most recently, Pumpkinella has taken to sleep talking and having 2am play dates with us. Coupled with a recent bout of tonsillitis followed by gastroenteritis, she’s been through a lot and since developed some rather exhausting new habits. I’ve understandably let things slip in favour of nursing her back to her usual happy and confident self.
To tell you the truth, even before the illnesses it was still a struggle to juggle the demands of family life.
So when I look at other mums for inspiration, I’m keen to learn how they balance all their commitments whilst still enjoying the time they spend together as a family. Do I wish that I could just get a grip and get it together? Well no because I’m not failing at it all, I’m just not quite there yet and there’s a lot of lessons from people with more experience than me to be sought. Some of these people have had no choice but to get organised and sometimes that’s the best reason and motivator of all.
I remember my parents working all the time and having very little time to talk to me and my siblings about what was going on in our lives. I didn’t go on holidays and was sent to summer camps in the summer break.
I’d like things to be different with my family now. Take the time with Pumpkinella and my husband to really enjoy their company. I’m not a huge fan of nature but I do like an adventure so maybe a trip to somewhere rich in culture and diversity; that would provide a temporary release from the sometimes mundane lifestyle we’re stuck in at the moment.
And as for being able to juggle it all? If there’s anyone out there that us managing to do so, please let me know so I can understand what it is I’m doing wrong and how I can get it together too.